As I mentioned in a previous post, Calvin has been struggling with eczema since he was a newborn. It started as baby acne, then became extremely dry skin, and now it just flares up on his cheeks and chest. I don't know what it is about babies, but everyone feels they're entitled to point out his eczema or start asking me questions about it. I do love when mom's mention they had the same struggles with their children, but I don't like when I get questioned about my method of dealing with this experience.
So I thought I would share a few examples of comments or questions that have been directed toward me that I hear on a regular basis from many different moms.
**Disclaimer: This post is not directed at one particular person or situation, it's something that has been happening since Calvin's birth**
1. "Oh, is that eczema?"
First off, why is it ok for people to comment about baby's skin but not adults. How would you feel if you struggled with acne and someone came up to you and said: "Oh I see you have pimples all over your face." Not the nicest thing to hear eh?
2. "What type of cream are you using?"
I don't understand why this is such an important thing for people to know. I had an elderly lady in our ward ask me this once and I replied saying we were using a prescription cream from the doctor because his face had gotten a little infection. She then asked if it had a cortisone base and I said it did. You would have thought that I had given a drink that I had spat in. She was so offended and looked so concerned. I had to remove myself from the situation because I was so mad. We are now using a different cream, but still keep the prescription for when he has really severe patches.
3. "All eczema is caused by food allergies."
I am a firm believer of trusting your gut when it comes to being a parent. Alex and I have spent many nights discussing ways to help Calvin, and we both feel it isn't a food allergy. He has no other symptoms, he skin just gets easily irritated. So when people say "It's now been proven that eczema is an allergy to dairy or eggs." I understand that allergies are becoming more and more common with babies, but I don't feel that he has one. He has no other symptoms, and isn't even bothered by his eczema. It doesn't make him uncomfortable in any way.
4. "Have you tried ____?"
This comment usually hurts me the most. It makes me feel like I'm not doing enough as a mother. That I am selfish because I won't try the elimination diet. That I am close minded because I won't do things that work for other mom's and their situation. We have found a routine/products that work us. We know that eczema is something you can't cure, but luckily we've found a product that has helped soothe and heal his current flare up.