8.8.18

ASHER: 1 MONTH

Age: 1 month

Sleep: From day one, he's been an amazing sleeper. He didn't cluster feed during the night at all (thank heavens!), and he was having one 5 hour stretch of sleep each night. The past 2 weeks he's had much more of a bedtime routine. Down at 8:30-9, up for a feed at 2-2:30 and back down until 6. Now again he'll add another feed in there, but for the most part he just wakes up once a night. He did have a period where he would be up for hours at a time and would not go back, but luckily he just sucks his soother until he falls back.

Feeding: Just like Calvin, he has tongue tie. Although his is slightly more severe. My nipples are actually in great shape and he latches perfectly, however he randomly will get frustrated, my nipple will slip out now and again, and he spits up immediately after feeding (which are all common signs of tongue tie). He spits up all the time. Luckily he's still gaining weight like a champ though so it's not a worry.

Clothing: Depending on the brand 0-3/3-6 months. We went straight into size one diapers when he was born since we knew he would easily blowout of the newborn size. At our last midwife appointment (last Tuesday), he weighed in at 11lbs 7oz!

Movement: This poor kids hands and arms are really driving him nuts. I love watching newborns trying to figure out how to control them. There are a lot of unintentional hitting the soother out of the mouth which results in tears. He also loves spinning around on the floor. If we place him on the carpet, he'll turn a complete 180 from where he was originally placed.

Likes: (1) His soother. Calvin didn't like soothers until around 5-6 months, but Asher is a little more fussy and needs his soother now and again. Luckily he takes them, while Calvin didn't. (2) Driving in the car, walking in the stroller, any kind of movement. (3) Just wearing a diaper. Because he spits up so much, his clothes get super wet and uncomfy. So when we are home we just leave him naked with a diaper on and he is much more content. (4) Bath time is probably his all time favourite. Both my babies are water babies. (5) Baby wraps. Whenever he gets too fussy and can't be calmed, we immediately put him the wrap and walk around. It calms him instantly every time.

Dislikes: Gas. He gets pretty gassy and uncomfortable regularly which isn't fun.

Other: (1) He has a very strong neck and is constantly lifting his head up when held over the shoulder. Minutes after he was born he was doing it. Even the midwives were pretty impressed. (2) He just started smiling a few days ago! It makes my heart so happy every time he grins and giggles. He's also starting to coo quite a bit too.

11.7.18

ASHER'S BIRTH STORY


We were waiting for Asher long before we were actually pregnant. It took us almost an entire year to get pregnant, and every pregnancy announcement and question about having more kids would break my heart. We didn't struggle nearly as long as other's have, but it was a hard time for us to accept that it wasn't in our control. When we finally got pregnant we were over the moon excited. Little did we know that a few months later we would be playing another waiting game.

To say I was over being pregnant was definitely an understatement. There were so many ultrasounds, non stress tests, and visits to my midwife in just one week, and my body was really taking a beating. Not to mention we were experiencing an extreme heat wave in Ottawa. Luckily Chris had arrived on Canada Day so she was able to keep Calvin entertained since I was so uncomfortable and exhausted. We basically moved into my parents house so I could be more comfortable in the heat.

Thursday July 5th - 13 days overdue
Since there was still no action happening my midwife offered to give me a stretch and sweep. I wasn't planning on getting one this time around since it was pretty uncomfortable last time, and it didn't do anything. But because I was so far over, I was willing to try anything. She gave me one at 3pm, and I started getting contractions at 5pm. They were pretty regular, and felt the exact same to when I was in early labour with Calvin. I was sure that I was going to have our baby that night. We ordered some Lebanese food, watched Father of the Bride Part II, then watched some episodes of The Chase. Since nothing was progressing I tried to get some sleep, but I kept waking up. 14 hours later and the contractions stopped.

Friday July 6th - 14 days overdue

12:00 - 7:00 pm
Another trip to the midwife's for another non stress test and stretch and sweep. My midwife told me I was dilated to 5cm which gave me hope that things were progressing in some way. Instead of going home we decided to go shopping and keep me on my feet to try and move things along. I was having regular contractions again, but nothing too extreme. We ate some dinner then went back to my parent's.

Pre-Labour
7:00 - 9:30 pm
I was so desperate at this point that I decided to try something I swore I wouldn't: Castor Oil. During the next couple of hours I took 1 tbsp per hour and hoped it would kick things into gear. By 9:30 nothing was changing so I called my midwife (Julia) and asked if she could give me another stretch and sweep that night. She agreed.

10:00 - 11:20 pm
15 minutes later Julia called to tell me another one of her clients just called to say she was in labour and she didn't want to give me another stretch and sweep and risk having to miss one of our labours. So we decided to go to bed and see what would happen in the morning.

Active Labour
11:20 - 11:45 pm
I was so beyond exhausted that I asked if Alex could give me a blessing before we headed to bed. The blessing was exactly what I needed to hear. The minute I laid down, I was in excruciating pain. I stood up and noticed that my contractions had changed. I was feeling them less in the back, and more low and forward. They were also much sharper. Up until now, my body had not reacted to the castor oil. Then out of the blue I ran to the bathroom and it pretty much drained me of everything. I was having contractions really close together while on the toilet and I knew we were going to have to call Julia.

11:45 - 12:05 am
My contractions were pretty painful at this point so I couldn't talk through them. Alex called Julia, and of course as luck would have it, she was on her way to see her other client who had gone into active labour. My second midwife (Wendy) was off, so Julia told me she would find another midwife to meet me at the birth centre. At 11:54 we got in the car. This car ride was much nicer than my last experience. I only had about 5 contractions, and was able to talk in between to Alex.

12:05 - 12:30 am
We arrived at the birthing centre before the midwife so we waited in the family room. I had a few painful contractions so I just sat in an armchair, closed my eyes, rocked back and forth as I breathed through each one. Melissa (my substitute midwife), arrived at 12:15 and we followed her into the birthing suite, which actually happened to be the very same one I had Calvin in. It was such a sweet moment being in an environment I knew so well. Contractions were getting increasingly painful and closer together at this point and I was desperate to get in that tub.

12:30 - 12:55 am
Once in the water, things got very intense, very quickly. I spent the first 2 contractions on my knees bobbing up and down. Once they past I immediately transitioned to leaning onto Alex with my head down, still on my knees. As soon as I got "comfortable" another contraction hit, and this one was a doozy. I couldn't stay silent any longer and began to moan. My mom and midwives (Melissa, Mary and Christine) were all gathered around the tub. Everyone, including Alex knew I was in transition, while I on the other hand had no idea how much longer I was going to go for. I kept saying I couldn't do it any longer and I wanted to push so badly. Last time I wasn't allowed to push until my midwife told me to, so I was expecting the same thing this time around. I asked "Can I push yet?" and Mary said softly "You can push whenever you want to push."

12:55 - 1:08 am
He was close and I knew it. Pushing was not as "enjoyable" as it was last time, however it didn't last long. I remained in the same position that I was in during transition and at 1:08 am on July 7th, Alex and I caught him together. I cried quite a bit after and kept repeating "You're here! We've been waiting so long!"

I was only in painful labour for an hour and 20 minutes (half the amount of time than I was with Calvin). Asher James Wrigley Baronins came into the world weighing 10lbs 4oz and 21 inches long. Now that he's here, it's hard to remember life without him. He's fit perfectly into our family and has become part of our everyday.

Recovery so far has been an absolute dream compared to last time. No tailbone pain, only 1 stitch (hallelujah! Calvin did quite the number on me internally), very minimal bleeding and no fainting (which means no hospital!) We were able to go home 3 hours after he was born, and it felt so good being in our space again.

That morning we introduced him to Calvin, and he was so excited. He kept saying "Baby Asher so cute!" So far the transition has been incredible for him. I know there are going to be rough patches, especially once everyone leaves and my time will be split between the two of them, but he has been so understanding and loving. He hasn't shown any interest in holding him, so we're not pushing it, but he tries to comfort him when he cries and gives him things to soothe him.

Thank you all for the beautiful words of encouragement and love throughout this pregnancy. It was rough towards the end, but this pregnancy was relatively smooth with an even smoother recovery thus far. Now excuse me as I go and cuddle this new little bundle of ours.

11.6.18

BUMPDATE: 36-38 WEEKS

The past couple weeks have literally flown by and have been super busy and exhausting. I missed 2 bumpdates, which I am kind of bummed about, but at the same time it's not the end of the world. Alex has some huge assignments due and was gone a couple of nights working with his group. Then he also had a trip to Montreal with his internship for a few days. Luckily Calvin has been super chill and has allowed Netflix to become his temporary mother while I lay on the couch.

My body pretty much revolted against me at 36 weeks. I got hemorrhoids, tailbone pain, intense contractions, Charlie horses in my calfs, and swollen feet. It was just the worst week ever. Sitting down for long periods of time would aggravate my hemorrhoids, but I couldn't stay on my feet due to my tailbone pain, Charlie horses and swollen feet. Luckily everything went away after a week, minus the contractions.

On May 29th, I started experiencing very strong, consistent contractions along with intense tailbone pain, which had me extremely worried since ideally I didn't want to deliver at the hospital and baby was still considered "pre-term" (even though I was literally 2 days away from being 37 weeks). But none of the contractions progressed which was a huge relief.

I'm at the point where I am very much done with being pregnant. The waddle is very real right now along with all the lovely aches and pains of the last couple of weeks. Some days are harder than others, but I've been trying to keep it easy and not overdo myself before baby comes.
How far along are you? 38 weeks.

Due date: June 22nd

Sleep: It's not horrible, but it's not the best either. Because it takes so much effort to roll over now, I wake up every time in order to just switch sides. I'm able to go right back, but I really miss the uninterrupted sleep.

Contractions: As I mentioned above I started getting contractions at 36 weeks. I don't remember them being this intense or consistent when I was pregnant with Calvin, so hopefully that's a sign that he may come a little earlier than his brother (a girl can dream right?). Some contractions will be super uncomfortable and give me extreme pain in my tailbone. I'll even have them last for a couple of hours being a few minutes apart, but nothing has progressed. I've been pretty lucky in that I haven't assumed it's the real thing yet, so I'm not crushed when things don't progress. I'm still pretty confident he will be arriving a little later, but we will just have to wait and see.

Food cravings: A couple weeks back I couldn't get enough of rocket popsicles. Right now though there haven't been any specific cravings.

Favourite moments: (1) We've officially had a name picked out for about 2 months now, and we've only shared with family and a couple of friends. We decided to tell Calvin what his baby brother is going to be named, to help create a connection between my belly and the baby that is inside. He's says it in the most hilarious, cute way. I'll give you a hint in that it kind of sounds like a curse word when he says it ;) You'll have to wait until he arrives to hear the actual name. (2) Today Calvin and I spent the morning in our backyard drawing with chalk. Usually when we draw he'll ask me to draw "Daddy, Mommy, and baby" of whatever he is currently obsessed with. He only asks for those 3 since that's what our family looks like. Today, however, when I finished drawing baby he asked: "And baby brother?" I pretty much started sobbing immediately. It was just such a precious little moment.

Happy or moody? Happy, but with some pretty grumpy moments ;)

Looking forward to: Having some newborn cuddles. In our ward I was the last of 4 pregnant women to be due in a 2 month period. Seeing all these fresh little bundles is making me super impatient haha.

24.5.18

BUMPDATE: 35 WEEKS

How far along are you? 35 weeks.

Due date: June 22nd

Sleep: So much better lately! I don't wake up in the night at all, which has been amazing! I do however wake up pretty early with a full bladder. Some days I'm able to go back and get a couple more hours sleep, while other days I just stay up and have some me time before everyone wakes up.

Movement: He rolled over last week which was hilarious. All the movement I was getting for weeks was on the right side, so clear his back was on the left. But the past week all the movement is on the left, and my midwife confirm that his back is now on the right.

Food cravings: This week I had a sudden craving for mini rice cakes in the flavour ranch. I literally ate one full bag in one sitting yesterday.. But hey they're healthy... right? ;)

Favourite moments: This wasn't necessarily a pregnancy moment, but when we pulled into the parking lot of my midwife's office, Calvin said "We're at the midwife's. We're going to listen to baby's heartbeat." I literally melted into a puddle right then and there. Again I don't think toddlers fully understand that a new baby is coming until they arrive, but he's been talking about it more and more lately and I can't wait for him to be a big brother!

Happy or moody? Happy

Looking forward to: Seeing what he looks like. The closer we get, the more excited I am to see if he is going to be a clone of Calvin, look more like Alex's side of the family or be a mixture of family members.

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